If the blame is someone else’s to carry, maybe the pain will be, too.
Have you ever felt this way? If there were just someone, or something else to shift all of the pain onto, then I would be free from the pain.
Blame has been part of the human story from just about the very beginning. At some point in life, we will all experience a setback at the hands of someone else. We want to be free from the feelings that come with this – shame, humiliation, pain, grief. Blame offers what seems to be a solution. We can point a finger at someone else. Shifting the focus to what ‘they’ did. Getting the attention off the negative emotions we are feeling.
“If the blame is someone else’s to carry, maybe the pain will be, too.”
My husband and I have committed to the one percent rule. We choose to own our part of a problem, even if we are a mere ONE PERCENT at fault.
Why?
Because blame keeps us powerless. Blame keeps us imprisoned in a life-sentence of victimhood. Blame refuses to take responsibility for the one percent of my life. Eventually, this bleeds into being the victim 100% of the time.
The truth? Until you take responsibility for your 1%, you will remain stuck in a cycle of powerlessness.
In every situation we face, we can choose to be powerful and take responsibility for our part. Our part is how we respond, how we heal, how we grow. It is our attitudes and actions. It is our willingness to be humble and forgiving. Ultimately, how to move forward is our choice to make.
How to own your 1% ↴
🔍 Choose to respond with good and clear boundaries (this may mean ending a business or personal relationship).
🔍 Choose growth and healing.
🔍 Remember, you are not responsible for the actions of others.
🔍 Focus on the 1% that you can work on in your own life.
🔍 Choose forgiveness (for yourself, and others) so you can move forward.
Keep Growing, Keep Healing,
🫶🏻 Annie
